Survey: Most Family Caregivers Lie To Those They’re Caring For
April 24, 2013 by UPI - United Press International, Inc.
NAPLES, Fla. (UPI) — Seventy-three percent of U.S. adults who care for an elderly parent of family member admit to lying to the person they’re caring for, a survey indicates.
AgingCare.com surveyed more than 700 people taking care of an elderly parent or family member and found:
– Of the 73 percent of family caregivers, who admitted to lying to the person they’re caring for; 43 percent lied on a weekly basis.
– Half who admitted to lying said it was justified because it either made their own life easier or it’s for the elderly family member’s “own good.”
– Only 28 percent, who lied said it was wrong and felt guilty.
Family caregivers are most honest about their loved one’s medical condition and least honest about their own feelings: 65 percent lied about their own feelings, while 10 percent lied about their loved one’s medical reports or test results.
The AgingCare.com Caregiver Forum provides an outlet for caregiver honesty; members can share their candid feelings or worries without condemnation, without guilt and without hurting the one they love.
For example, one forum member said: “People tell me how great I am for taking care of my mom and when they tell me this I feel worse because of the way I really feel deep inside. I want my life back.”
Another member said, “I’m usually pretty compassionate but people who compare taking care of someone with dementia to taking care of a child should be whomped upside the head.”
No survey details were provided.