I see several hundred patients a month and the most frequent things I hear is: "Oh, poor me." This self-defeating mantra actually comes in two forms: Self-defeat and hopelessness.
Mantras Of Self-Defeat
- "I’m so sick."
- "My pain is so bad."
- "No one suffers like me."
- "I can’t do anything."
Mantras Of Hopelessness
- "No one can help me."
- "I’m not expecting this to work."
- "The doctors don’t know what’s wrong with me."
- "I try everything and nothing works."
I can’t express how sorry and frustrated I get when I hear statements like these. To be fair, I fully expect to hear them on the first visit or two. Most people, when seeing a new health care provider, tend to focus on their pain or illness… to spotlight it. They do this in an effort to express the degree to which it affects their quality of life.
But after a few visits, therapeutic intervention and motivation, when I again ask patients how they feel they tend to regurgitate what they said on the first visit. The self-defeating and hopeless statements have become their mantra, their self-fulfilling prophecy. They have come to define themselves as being in poor health, as one who suffers, as one whose condition is beyond repair. Yet, when I review their list of signs and symptoms, a strong percentage are either gone or no longer troubling them to the same degree.
What is happening is the person has been suffering for an extended period of time. And to date, nothing they have "tried" has worked wonders for them. And what I often find on further questioning is that while many patients give things like acupuncture, herbal medicine, meditation, diets and so forth "a try," they drop out of the program when results are not felt or seen quickly. Yet these health modalities are long-term methods to rebalance the body where change is manifested over time. So quitting too soon, when "soon" is not how they work, will only result in the method not working.
It can be said that the self-fulfilling prophecy of defeat is already set in motion before the wellness treatments began.
"I know this won’t work, but my friend says to try it." And when they don’t feel better right away, it’s proof that it "didn’t work," and that their health concern "can’t be fixed."
This doesn’t have to be the case.
The first thing that needs to be understood is that the universe is made up of vibrations — in other words, energy. And energy frequencies are either harming or healing, depending on the condition. There is an abundance of energy in the universe because every single thing has it and all cells and atoms are nothing but energy that is vibrating at specific frequencies.
As an analogy, a flower, knowing only flower things such as growing, absorbing water, absorbing the sun’s rays… is living in harmony with the abundant energy of the universe. The gardener, eating preserved food, drinking high caloric and caffeinated beverages and staying up late at night, is living in disharmony with abundant energy. The flower blooms when nature calls it to bloom. The gardener tries to work too much to make things (money, jobs) happen faster than they should. The result is sickness.
If people can realize that the universe is full of abundance and all they have to do is to align themselves with nature and ask for that abundance, then what they ask for will manifest. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed, and so you will get nothing without asking. A closed door permits no entry so even if abundance comes, if you are not ready to accept it, it will pass on by.
What this means is, if you are ill and want to get better you must open your mind and heart to the healing process. And healing is a process.
First, you must set your mind not only to try a healing modality, but to see it through the prescribed duration. And by committing to the duration of the method you are allowing it take hold and make change in your body by keeping the door open. It takes time to realign energy to correct illness and to allow wellness to manifest.
Second, you must discard the self-defeating and hopeless mantras that have become your habit. You must accept the good and the bad and change the frame of your thoughts to positive ones that allow abundant healing energy to come to you. Here are some examples:
"I am certain this will work, if I allow it to work."
"While I am still sick, my back no longer bothers me as much."
"Yes my cholesterol is still high, but it is 5 points lower this week."
"I trust my healer, I trust myself, I seek wellness and I ask abundance to bring healing energy to my body."
With the right outlook, the right energy and trust focused on yourself and the process of healing, you will be at once open to receive abundant healing and able to ask for it with unyielding purpose. Focus on the small steps, keep asking for abundance in healing, and self-defeating words will no longer rule your life or keep you from your goal of achieving renewed health and vitality.
–Dr. Mark Wiley